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How to Be a Latin Lover
Get directions on how to woo the ladies on Valentine's Day or any other time of year
by Francesca Di Meglio
Among the world's lusty Latin lovers, Italian men have a way with women. They tend to spend lots of time grooming themselves, so that even when they have bed head, they look sexy. They know how to flirt in a way that has women feeling as though they are as desirable as Sofia Loren. And they have a reputation for being pretty good in bed, or at least that is what they'll tell you – over and over again – until you want to find out if it's true.
Not everyone is lucky enough to be born a decent Latin lover. But you can train yourself to be one. Here's a guide on how to be as successful courting women as any Italian man:
Di Meglio is the author of Fun with the Family New Jersey, and you can follow her life and work on the Two Worlds Web site.
- Find your swagger
Italian men ooze confidence. Theirs comes from years of Italian mothers telling their sons just how wonderful and handsome they are. Your mom might have realized that the world does not revolve around you (a fact most Italian mothers have yet to notice). But you can still fake confidence. Just tell yourself how great you are and eventually you'll believe it. Walk around with your head held high. Guess what? If you fake confidence, eventually, you might actually be confident. This will form the foundation of your abilities as a Latin lover.
- Learn how to flirt
When an Italian man flirts with you, he makes you believe that you are the greatest thing since sliced bread. He'll have you feeling confident and sexy. And he'll make you want him all the more. Flirting is indeed his way of life. So, how can you mimic this? Well, it's not easy and it won't happen overnight. For starters, you have to get comfortable launching conversations with strangers, even beautiful strangers to whom you are attracted. Then, you have to make the conversations all about her. Ask questions about her life, likes, dislikes. Interject compliments that are believable and creative. When my Italian husband first met me, in the middle of our conversation, he asked when we could get engaged. This was all amid his interview, in which he asked me all about my life in America and my career. It worked like a charm. I found him presumptuous but cute. And I couldn't forget his question, which had me interested in talking to him more.
- Groom, groom, and groom some more
My husband has more hair and beauty products than I'll ever have. He won't leave the house without putting gel in his hair and looking in a mirror 100 times. He also never wears a run-of-the-mill cotton T-shirt or sweat pants out in public unless he's running or going to the gym. Instead, you'll see him with his perfect hair, sporting a button-down shirt and jeans or dress pants and shoes. Once in a while, he'll wear a sweatshirt with sneakers, but even those are different from the ones he uses to exercise. These rituals and habits can really get on a wife's nerves. But it's attractive to other women, who are just seeing the finished product and not subject to the work that goes into it. Frankly, when a man puts that much attention into his looks, he will get noticed. You put your best foot forward, and you'll reap rewards. Someone will find you attractive.
- Make a move
What separates Latin lovers from others is that others don't usually follow through on their flirting. They pick up a tab for a woman they find attractive at the bar or make small talk with a pretty young lady on the elevator, but they never get a phone number or ask her out on a date. Latin lovers get the digits, ask the woman out, and come up with a fabulous date. They lay the romance on thick when they do go out. Flowers and candy might be a cliché, but they work. And the compliments shouldn't stop once you have the date. Keep 'em flowing, but be genuine. Of course, you must end the night with an unforgettable, movie kiss. After all, you want your lady thinking of you long after the night is over.
Article Published 1/7/2013
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